I know that I’ve covered relationships and all before, but I recently realized a few things I thought I’d share.
Not everyone is as lucky as my mom and Kris. Most of the time, if two people get married quickly, it doesn’t end the way that they expect it to. My boss and I had a little conversation about fast relationships the other day because he was in one. He expected and wanted it to work out well but when you rush things, you end up getting into a situation with someone that you don’t fully know yet. I’m sure that’s common sense to read, like “yeah, if you don’t know them for very long, you don’t fully know them as a person.” but once you’re in the actual situation in a relationship with someone that you’re infatuated with, you don’t see clearly. Common sense goes out the window when all you want to do is make that person happy. I get it, you’re happy when they’re happy and you two think you’re in love and both of you thinks marriage is what the other wants.. It happens. It happens a lot, actually. That’s why a lot of marriages fail.. if you don’t communicate properly and fairly during the dating relationship, you won’t know what to expect when you actually vow to spend the rest of your lives together. I see lots of people, not just teenagers, who believe that they’re in love but really, you just love the idea of being in love.
Guys, I don’t claim to know everything, but I learn a lot from watching others and from actually listening when someone who’s been there done that is talking to me. I don’t want to see people make the mistake of moving too quickly. That can put stress on future relationships also. Go at your own pace! Move as slow as you want, because if they push you, they aren’t the right one for you!
